We have all heard about how sex is always the number one thing on the human male brain.
And many of us male human beings can likely corroborate that sex is something of great interest to us.
That said, I have been interested in the last couple of years, in my own experience, in examining the extent to which a seemingly insatiable “desire for sex” may actually be fulfilled or sated by non-sexual love.
That is to say, I have found that when I have been living, for example, in highly loving households or environments — even loving non-sexually — for example houses with good dear friends, or communities with many good dear friends, that my desire for Sex seems significantly lessened.
Sure, Sex would be great in such situations, and I would likely not refuse it. But in some of those living situations — such as a wonderful house I lived in with several friends in Vancouver — or at various ashrams in India — where I had for significant bouts of time no sexual partner, it was often not something on my mind in a major way, and I felt quite happy and satisfied with my life.
In other words, I felt that I was getting — and giving — enough Love, and felt no lack in that area.
On the other hand, it tends to be in places where I am living Alone, or in a place that is comparatively “Loveless”, that I feel a strong sexual urge often making itself known. In the absence of a sexual partner, it would seem to call urgently for a little bit of “personal” action.
So this intrigues me. It has also been suggested by some theorists, that what is often considered to be the “INSATIABLE” desire for sex that many feel today, may actually have at its root simply a lack of LOVE in that person’s life.
Even in the absence of SEX, can we be satisfied by LOVE?
This is not to say that Sex is a bad thing (surely, “The world must be peopled” through it, and it can certainly be a beautiful art form),
But just to question whether sometimes our great desire for Sex actually just masks a Desire for LOVE in our lives.